While posting about French Queens and the fleur de lys I came across this lovely story about the relationship between Maria LeszczyÅ„ska, and her daughter in law, the Dauphine Maria Josepha of Saxony.
Maria L was very close to the first wife of the Dauphin, Marie ThÃ©rÃ¨se RaphaÃ«lle, and was distraught when she died. Â This did not bode well for potential MIL-DIL relationships during the Dauphin’s second marriage To Maria Josepha (after all, who wants to be compared to the beautiful, sweet, pious, beloved first wife all the time!), and circumstances conspired to make Maria Josepha’s position even less promising.
First, the marriage had been strongly supported by Louis XV’s mistress, Madame de Pompadour, and the catty Versaille courtiers took every opportunity to remind Maria L how humiliating it was that her eldest son’s marriage was arranged by her husband’s powerful mistress.
To make matters worse, Maria Josepha was the granddaughter of Augustus II of Saxony, who had dethroned Maria L’s father, StanisÅ‚aw LeszczyÅ„ski, from the throne of Poland, causing Maria L a very stressful, unhappy, and uncertain childhood. Â And of course, the French court used this as anther excuse to twit Maria L.
Poor woman! Â I certainly wouldn’t have been surprised if she had been awful to her new daughter in law!
Maria L, however, was too much of a lady to prejudge Maria Josepha (after all, she couldn’t help who her grandfather was, or who arranged her marriage), and possibly remembered how hard her own arrival at Versailles had been, so resolved to give her the benefit of the doubt.
The 15 year old Maria Josepha, in her turn, showed uncommon tact for her tender years.
It was the custom for royal brides to wear a portrait bracelet of their father at their marriage, as a symbol of the man who was giving them away (yes, very Medieval, get over it).
Upon meeting the new Dauphine, Maria L extended an olive branch and asked to see her bracelet. Â Maria Josepha held out her arm to reveal that she was wearing not a portrait of her father, Frederick II of Saxony, but a portrait of Maria L’s father, Stanislas! Â She said it was to symbolise her admiration for him, and that he was now her Grandfather by marriage.
Awwww…. Â How sweet is that?
Not surprisingly, the Queen and the Dauphine managed to become fast friends. Â The Dauphine wasn’t putting on her admiration for Stanislas either, she would later nameÂ one of her sons after Maria L’s father.
Now that’s how to be a good mother in law, and a good daughter in law! Â I’m lucky that I have a wonderful MIL of my own!